There is a moment—usually quiet, usually personal—when bitterness tries to take root. It doesn’t announce itself loudly. It shows up as a thought: This shouldn’t have happened. Or Why me? Or This is unfair.
Marcus Aurelius offers a different framing, one that cuts against our instinct to label pain as misfortune:
“Here is a rule to remember in future, when anything tempts you to feel bitter: not ‘This is misfortune,’ but ‘To bear this worthily is good fortune.’”
At first glance, this feels almost offensive. How could struggle, loss, or disappointment be anything close to good fortune? But the Stoics were never interested in comfort—they were interested in freedom.
The Story We Tell Ourselves About Events
Most of our suffering doesn’t come from events themselves, but from the meaning we attach to them. We see something unwanted happen and immediately stamp it as bad. From there, emotions follow: anger, resentment, self-pity.
Stoicism draws a sharp line between what happens and how we respond. The event is neutral. The judgment is optional.
Calling something “misfortune” makes us passive. It frames us as victims of circumstance. But when we shift the question from “Why did this happen to me?” to “How will I carry this?”, something subtle but powerful changes.
We reclaim authorship.
What It Means to Bear Something Worthily
Bearing something worthily doesn’t mean suppressing emotion or pretending pain doesn’t exist. It means meeting difficulty without surrendering your values.
It looks like:
- Responding calmly instead of reacting impulsively
- Choosing integrity when cutting corners would be easier
- Remaining kind when bitterness would feel justified
Endurance, in this sense, is not passive suffering. It is active character-building.
Anyone can be peaceful when life is smooth. The real test of who we are happens when circumstances press against us.
Why Hardship Can Be a Form of Good Fortune
This is the part most people miss: hardship reveals what comfort never can.
When things go wrong, we discover:
- How resilient we truly are
- Which values actually guide us
- Whether our peace depends on outcomes or principles
Struggle strips away illusion. It shows us what we can carry—and what we don’t need.
From this perspective, good fortune isn’t the absence of difficulty. It’s the opportunity to strengthen the part of us that cannot be taken away.
A life without challenge may be pleasant, but it rarely produces depth.
The Quiet Power of Self-Respect
There is a unique kind of confidence that comes from knowing you handled something well—even if the outcome wasn’t what you hoped for.
You can lose an opportunity and still keep your dignity.
You can be wronged and still remain just.
You can suffer and still act with restraint.
That inner self-respect becomes a form of wealth. It’s portable. It can’t be revoked by circumstance.
This is why Stoics considered virtue the highest good. Everything else—status, comfort, approval—can vanish overnight. Character cannot, unless we give it away.
A Simple Practice for Difficult Moments
The next time something frustrates or disappoints you, pause and ask:
- What part of this is outside my control?
- What part of this is mine to carry well?
Then focus only on the second question.
You don’t need to like what’s happening. You only need to decide who you will be while it’s happening.
That decision—quiet, internal, often unnoticed—is where real strength is forged.
Closing Reflection
Misfortune is often just endurance waiting to be named correctly.
Life will test us whether we ask for it or not. The hidden good fortune lies in meeting those tests with clarity, restraint, and self-command.
Because in the end, it’s not what happens to us that defines the quality of our life—but how worthily we choose to bear it.
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