There’s a quiet belief many of us carry without even realizing it: the belief that we’re too much, not enough, or somehow a burden to those around us. It creeps in during moments of vulnerability—when we need support, when we make a mistake, or when we’re simply being our unfiltered selves. This belief doesn’t shout; it whispers. But those whispers can weigh heavy over time.
Where does this come from? Maybe from childhood experiences, social rejection, or being told—directly or indirectly—that our needs are inconvenient. Over time, we start to internalize the idea that asking for help is weakness, that our emotions are a problem, and that we need to shrink ourselves to be loved.
But let’s pause right there: that narrative is not truth—it’s trauma talking.
You are not a burden for feeling deeply. You are not a burden for needing space or needing someone. You are not a burden for existing with layers and imperfections. Every human being has moments of need. It’s part of what makes us beautifully connected. Denying those parts of ourselves only isolates us further.
Rewriting this narrative takes time and practice. It starts with awareness—catching yourself when the thought arises. Then gently challenging it. Instead of “I’m sorry for being too much,” try “Thank you for being here for me.” Instead of “I shouldn’t have said that,” try “I’m learning to express myself.”
Surround yourself with people who affirm your worth, not ones who make you question it. Speak kindly to yourself when your mind turns critical. And remind yourself: being human isn’t a flaw—it’s the whole point.
You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to need. And most importantly, you are allowed to be loved exactly as you are. You are not a burden. You are a blessing. Don’t let a lie rob you of that truth.
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